Thursday, August 25, 2016

6 Dating Rules to Break

You will kill the vibe if you force your way into a potential partner using some dated dating rules as a road map to success. These are often boring, outdated set of rules that the society has held on to for so long. But modern dating is getting very flexible, and as long as both of you are comfortable with how things are moving, you should be good to go.

Here are the 6 outdated dating rules that must be trashed into the bin

1 The man is everything

Dating tradition demands that the man should issue invitation, pay for the dinner and invite a second, a third and subsequent dates. But according to a 2011 study conducted by a popular dating site involving 5,000 singles, more than a half of women who were interviewed said they were comfortable making a follow up call. Another 41% confessed that they would foot the bills in their first date with a man. In other words, people should not hesitate to make moves based on their gender.

2 Serious topics must be avoided at all cost

This rule prohibits discussing topics related to politics, religion, parenting etc. However, it should be noted that dating in the early teens or 20s is a time of exploring yourself to find out who you are and what you want.

Actually, some experts now claim that bouncing your ideas and ideals off your date might help you establish what matters or where you might compromise. Provided you're contributing ideas in a manner that is not judgmental, everything should be fine when it comes to discussing any topic.

3 You should play hard to get

It used to apply to ladies, although it currently doesn't make sense to anyone who tries it out on a date. You see, people are generally busy these days, plus they have many dating opportunities in their lives.

Rather than playing games, get upfront with your potential lover and tell them how you feel. If you're direct and honest in the sense that you end up rejecting them, it would be a good thing for them because it shows the relationship was not meant to be.

4 Cut out on ogling

The old rule states that when you're seated in a restaurant with a date, you should avoid ogling at other people. Well, full ogling is still considered rude. But there is nothing wrong with checking out other people.

Acknowledging the attractiveness of people seating opposite you without acting jealous or threatened is a way of communicating to your potential lover that you're confident and secure.

5 Never be quick to say the L word

Traditional dating rules warned that saying the L word would automatically take the relationship to the next level. But today, saying ''I love you'' doesn't necessarily mean ''I want to settle down with you''.

In fact, majority of people are now starting to believe that uttering the three words is a way of expressing care and a desire to have that particular partner in their life. Yet again, communication is very important. Only ensure the person hearing those words is understanding what you mean.

6 No sex on the first date

The old school rule of not expecting sex on the first date has thrived for so long. Indeed it can be very confusing when it comes to thinking about when to hit the cookie jar with a new partner. On the hand, believing that both of you should have sex after a specific number of dates feel artificial. Therefore, the best thing to do is to let the relationship build naturally so that sex can come organically. This might happen in the first, the second or subsequent dates.

Those 6 conservative dating rules will ruin your chances of finding a new catch in a fast-paced dating atmosphere. But as long as you're flexible and not following the 6 rules above, you should be fine.